Do you find it difficult to talk positively about your ideas, achievements and what you want at work? This challenge comes up regularly in my coaching sessions, so I got curious and asked a number of people I know who feel they’ve been successful in their careers for their insights on what gets in their way and what helps: them.
“What stops you from talking positively about yourself?"
- Embarrassment - worried that I’m boring other people or talking too much
- Feels egotistic - I want to speak out but a voice in my head say’s “I’m not good enough”
- Language barrier - if English isn’t your first language there’s a fear of being laughed at because your accent is different, or you make a mistake
- Self-doubt: “I’m not enough”
- Fear of negative or critical feedback from others
“What is your top tip for talking confidently about yourself?”
- Feel the fear and do it anyway!
- Ask yourself “what is the worst that can happen?” Is it really that awful?
- If you don’t try, you'll never get better - so don’t wait to be perfect!
- Be natural - soft, let your personality come through, feeling, energy - be authentic. Be you! Then people feel they can trust you.
- Write down the good feedback that people give you and read it when you get home
- Show your passion
- Give yourself time to prepare - video or record yourself and play it back.
Know someone who is struggling with talking about themselves at work? Pass these tips on to them!
To arrange an informal chat about feeling more confident talking about yourself, contact me at [email protected]